Q&A with Dr. Carletta Perry: How to stay driven

Published 9:33 pm Tuesday, December 22, 2015

Q. I’m a 45-year-old man with a good life, but I haven’t achieved the financial success I had hoped for. How do I stay driven?

A. First of all, congratulations on living the “good life.”

I am constantly reminding myself that so many do not have the opportunity to live the good life or even have many of the things we take for granted. For example, many people must be thankful for being able to pick up items in the grocery store without looking at the price, because some people go into the grocery store with $20 and praise God when the total bill comes to only $19.99.

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Some people are able to eat out two or three times a week at $5-$8 per meal, whereas some people have only $10 until their next paycheck, 15 days away. Some people are able to go the gas station and leave with a full tank but others are still getting $10 on Pump 3.

So, what is the good life? It is subjective. It is what you believe it to be, what you see as good, and what you are grateful for.

It sounds like you really do have a good life — you have been alive for 45 years (thank God), you recognize that you have been blessed (thank God), you have achieved some financial success (thank God) and you appear to be a man with a good work ethic, drive, and determination.

What is missing? Purpose. I always say, you must know where you are going so you know when you get there that you have arrived. It seems to me that you have arrived, but you don’t recognize your house. In other words, you have been headed in an upward direction without a destination in mind.

You may say: I do have a destination — more money! I suggest you think about what you want to do with the money, i.e. retire comfortably, send kids to college, vacation, or simply spend time with family or doing the things you want to do?

Money can help in many ways, but many people are achieving those same results without a million-dollar bank account. Their kids are going to college, they experience fun vacations, they spend valuable time with their partners and kids, and they even turn hobbies into businesses.

You asked: “how can I stay driven?” You are driven and will probably always be a driven person, but be careful that you don’t drive past all of the important things in life chasing financial success.

Life is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy life!

Dr. Carletta N. Perry offers therapeutic life, relationship and career coaching. Catch her television show, “It’s Life Changing with Dr. Carletta Perry,” Mondays at 5:30 a.m. on WSKY/SKY-4 and on YouTube. Email her at contact@drcarlettaperry.com.