Stop trying to do it all — do this instead

Published 3:02 pm Thursday, October 8, 2015

By Chivon John

If the term “work-life balance” makes you roll your eyes, you wouldn’t be alone. According to the American Psychological Association, more than half of all women say they’re highly stressed.

The competing pressures of work and family often leave us hustling to do it all. It seems that in order to achieve more ease one must expect to endure more anxiety. No wonder work-life balance feels laughable. The chase is exhausting.

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When you adopt the mindset of trying to have it all, you’ll always come up short – constantly racing to acquire and accomplish more but never able to enjoy where you are.

If you find yourself in a cycle of surviving through your days instead of thriving, here are 3 practices to finally burn your superwoman cape.

1. Play to your strengths

No matter how hard you try, you can’t be a master of everything. Focus on the tasks that play to your strengths and delegate or outsource the rest.

2. Stop comparison in its tracks

Commit to making your life a comparison free zone. Going on Facebook twenty times per day to check out how your friends seem to do it all isn’t serving you. Life cannot fit into a neatly packaged status update so stop comparing yourself to the highlight reel on your newsfeed.

3. Lighten your Load

It’s a sobering reality to admit this but if it’s on your plate, it’s because you said yes to it. That doesn’t mean that this gives you a pass to beat yourself up about feeling overwhelmed.


Give yourself the gift of forgiveness and acknowledge that you’re human. Instead of dwelling on the question “What was I thinking?” ask yourself ‘What am I learning?’ Let go of the past and focus on how you can make things better for your future.